Such good reminders and advice. Thank you. And I find the same stance true in all kinds of relationships, beyond parenting, beyond sport. If those pressure dynamics are set down in childhood, they can continue at work, in school, at home, between spouses, etc. Like the example you give of even stars like Donovan needing to learn to listen to a different voice than the one consumed with performance (and the love conditioned on it), we all need to remember to play for the love of the game and that our value and worth are not dependent on the score.
Thanks so much. That's exactly it. I think we do folks a disservice when we don't allow them to learn how to navigate their inner world, without an insane amount of pressure piled on top.
Such good reminders and advice. Thank you. And I find the same stance true in all kinds of relationships, beyond parenting, beyond sport. If those pressure dynamics are set down in childhood, they can continue at work, in school, at home, between spouses, etc. Like the example you give of even stars like Donovan needing to learn to listen to a different voice than the one consumed with performance (and the love conditioned on it), we all need to remember to play for the love of the game and that our value and worth are not dependent on the score.
Thanks for these important reminders.
Thanks so much. That's exactly it. I think we do folks a disservice when we don't allow them to learn how to navigate their inner world, without an insane amount of pressure piled on top.